on love, on life

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The video that I'm sharing today is a clip from the movie Before Sunrise, which I watched for the first time the other day, and oh my goodness, it's absolutely brilliant. I normally don't go for romantic movies because the entire genre is pretty much saturated with mediocrity (re: crap) so it's difficult to find the gems, but on the other hand, in the rare instances when I do, it's all the more rewarding.

Anyway, this movie is rather thin plot-wise (two strangers meet on a train and decide to spend the day/night together in Vienna), and it's completely dialogue-driven; that's part of the charm though, it's real and raw but wonderfully enchanting.

So this is the listening booth scene (!). It makes me blush like crazy and I can't stop smiling because I know exactly what it feels like...and the song is perfect too. :)

I wanted to share this video/movie not just because I adore the scene, but because it really truly changed my perspectives on things.

First, that the relationships which end up meaning the most are the ones that change you. The characters in the movie spend, at most, 14 hours together, but by the end, you can tell that they're different from when they first met. You might know a person for years, but if they haven't affected you, haven't changed you in some way, then when all's said and done, they didn't really matter.

We truly are the sum total of our experiences and relationships. Each one of them molds us, shapes us, changes us. I don't believe in souls; is there really a basic essence of 'us' that remains untouched though? Like if you stripped away all of the life that we've lived, is there a 'core' that remains, unmistakably and unchangeably and distinctly 'us'? I personally don't believe so; for me, it's our experiences and relationships that make us unique; we are the things that happen to us.

Another thing, it taught me that being cynical might not be such a good idea after all. I've always felt 'special' for being a bit of a cynic; like I'm part of this exclusive club that sees the world for what it really is, as opposed to everyone else whose views are obscured by rose-colored glasses. Where everyone saw an illusion, I saw the truth.

But...cynicism takes the all the wonder out of the world and it makes life just a little less exciting. Remember how immense and magical the world seemed when we were children? As we transition into adulthood, I think it's important to hang on to even a tiny bit of that childlike naïveté, to keep life as rich as we'd always imagined.

We treat life as if it lasts forever, but it's not like we can go back and start over if we're unsatisfied. We can only do it once, and I don't think that it's worth wasting. Life may ultimately be meaningless, but that doesn't make it any less amazing. And we shouldn't let cynicism make it any less so either.